“Fear is the Mind Killer” is now available!

Front cover image of Fear is the Mind Killer: How to build a training culture that fosters strength and resilience

My book, Fear is the Mind Killer: How to Build a Training Culture that Fosters Strength and Resilience, is now available in both paperback and ebook editions! ORDER NOW! This project began almost exactly two years ago, over a sushi lunch with Guy Windsor. As we were catching up, he casually asked my why I … Continue reading “Fear is the Mind Killer” is now available!

Queer Toughness

I had a really great conversation after today's self defense talk that solidified a lot of floating ideas I had about why we need queer spaces for teaching this stuff. One of the things we discuss a lot in the "observation" material of our talks is body language. How unconscious cues can betray a person's … Continue reading Queer Toughness

Violence Dynamics and Gender: Unsorted Thoughts

I've been doing a lot of thinking about violence lately. I've just started teaching another round of our women's self defense course at Valkyrie; I'm working on a writing project that touches on how we need to be able to categorize and break down different kinds of violence to train for them; and I've started … Continue reading Violence Dynamics and Gender: Unsorted Thoughts

Realism in Self-Defense: It’s Probably Not What You Think

There's been a video bouncing around my social media circles that criticizes women's self-defense courses for making things too comfortable for their students, at the cost of realism and safety. It's a good argument, and a real problem. All too often I see videos for self-defense techniques that rely on a compliant or practically inert … Continue reading Realism in Self-Defense: It’s Probably Not What You Think

Self Defense Training: A Serious Offer

I've had a number of people reach out to me about self-defense instruction in the past week. A frightening number, to be honest, because it betrays how unstable our sense of safety is right now -- as women, LGBT folks, people of colour, and religious and political minorities. So here's the deal: I teach self-defense … Continue reading Self Defense Training: A Serious Offer